Walk Away From Disappointments...

Sooner or later, everyone you know will disappoint you in some way. They’ll say something or fail to say something that will hurt you. And they’ll do something or fail to do something that will anger you. It’s inevitable.
Unfortunately, you make things worse when you stew over someone’s words and deeds. When you dwell on a rude remark or an insensitive action made by another person, you are headed for deeper problems. In fact, the more you dwell on these things, the more bitter you’ll get. You’ll find your joy, peace and happiness slipping away. And you’ll find your productivity slowing down as you spend more and more time thinking about the slight or telling others about it. Eventually, if you don’t stop doing it, you’ll even get sick.
So what should you do the next time someone betrays you? TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FEELINGS. Even though the other person may be at fault, even though the other person has wronged you, you are still responsible for your own feelings. In other words, other people do not “cause” your feelings. You choose them.

As long as you blame other people for your feelings, as long as you believe other people caused your feelings, you are stuck. You’re a helpless victim. But if you recognize the fact that you choose your feelings and you are responsible for your feelings, there’s hope. You can take some time to think about your feelings. And you can decide what is the best thing to say or do. Then you’ve got to learn to WALK AWAY FROM DISAPPOINTMENT.
Its difficult to do, but its possible.

And what can you do about anything once its over? You can try to correct it if its possible, or you can walk away from it if it isn’t. Those are your only two choices!! Sometimes you’ve just got to shake it off and step up (pun intended!! Maybe). That’s the same approach we all need to take. We need to shake it off and step up. Finally, you need to FORGIVE. Its difficult especially when the other person doesn’t deserve your forgiveness or doesn’t even seek it. Its difficult when the other person is clearly in the wrong. Part of the difficulty comes from a common misunderstanding of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that the other person’s behaviour is okay. And forgiveness doesn’t mean that the other person is off the hook. He’s still responsible for his misbehaviour. Forgiveness is about letting yourself off the emotional hook. Its about releasing your negative emotions, attitudes and behaviours. Its about letting go of the past so you can go forward to the future. Everyone in your life, everyone on and off the job is going to disappoint you. If you know how to respond to those situations, you’ll be way ahead of most people. You’ll be able to live above and beyond your circumstances.

Action : identify 2 people that have disappointed, hurt or angered you. If possible, select 2 people towards whom you still have some bitterness. Then ask yourself – how does my bitterness serve me?? Am I happier holding on to it? Do I sleep better??? Is my life richer, fuller and better because of my bitterness? If you find that your bitterness is hurting you, make a decision.

Actually decide to let it go….
Walk away from the disappointment which means you no longer dwell on it or talk about it..

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